How To Increase Your Confidence


You are the only person on Earth that can use your ability- Zig Ziglar

New managers go through it. Old managers go through it, but probably won’t admit it. It may not happen often, but it does happen.

What am I referring to? Your confidence as a professional.

Starting out, most would-be professional have that passion and drive to write an expert blog posts everyday.  Then it goes to every other day.  Then, a couple times a week.  Now, you’re looking at the site once a month.  Next thing you know, you forget about the expertise blog altogether.

This happened all because you lost your confidence in your own expertise. I noticed that being part of the MBA class helped me to get back in track. Even though I joine online classes, boost that I get is great.

You will start to think that “Yeah.  I can do this.”  If  nothing else, seeing your blog with in a reader with other blogs is an ego boost.  And who the hell doesn’t need an ego boost?  Hell, we’re writers.  Some of us are geeky, tech writers.  We were the ones in school who didn’t fit in with the rest of the cool kids, but we studied hard.  We didn’t attend the big parties either because our parents didn’t let us go or we weren’t “people persons.” Fast forward to now.  We’re the cool kids and everybody showers us with approval.  (Well, you all.  Not me.  I’m still that geeky kid in a grown-up body.)

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Product Designers Of The Future

Three designers who are breaking away from the “normal” approach to design are Tom Gyr, Lil Yates, and Philip John Luscombe. Not content with following the crowd and just creating nice pieces, these three are proving that you can be crazier than Britney Spears with hair clippers and still create beautiful and intriguing products with a story behind them.

Product Designer Lil Yates looked towards OCD suffers when designing her latest collection made up of Checking Dice, Checking Stamp, and Symmetry Card. I’m not entirely sure her Checking Dice, designed to aid and reduce any stress suffered by OCD patients, met the needs of her brief. Inspired by cult book The Dice Man, Lil’s dice have been created to show tasks the OCD sufferer must perform, such as check the oven, while the second and third dice determine how many times the task must be completed. Does this help or hinder an OCD sufferer though? Does it add yet more things to be performed every day or control what has to be done? If the dice do fail the brief and in fact don’t help reduce stress, then they are, in effect, about as useful as an inflatable dartboard. I actually love these products as nice things, however, and believe that they show Lil has earned her.

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Our World’s Technological Epidemic

No do not run away from this read due to such a long, drawn out, title. It looks all scholar-ish and what not, but it totally fits. For those of you who do not know what an epidemic is, shame on you! Intuitively, it usually refers to a period of time when a disease spreads rapidly; everything seems to be happening all at once, while affecting many people at the same time.

In this case, I’m not referring to a disease, unless of you consider society’s current phase of “technology this, technology that” revolution a disease. It seems like everyday, a new machine has been created to supposedly make our lives so much better, but are such machines really making our lives easier or making us [society] lazier? Think about it…

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Powerful traits of successful entrepreneurs

Let me start this post with a couple of concepts I have discovered over the years.

Concept #1

We are what we think. The Law of Attraction guys say it this way: The only thing that stands between you and everything you want is your mind. It’s so true and it’s hard believe me , I am a GED graduate and I try everything to improve my confidence I failed because there was nobody to help me with my self-confidence so I had a bad image of myself. It all water under the bridge now but I remember how hard it is to be think about yourself positively and being able to accomplish what you want.

Concept #2

What we talk about, comes about. Dickinson translation: What you speak into the Universe is what controls your life. We are controlled by our positive or negative self talk.

Truth: The true power we possess does not come from prestige or place in life, it comes from what we think and how we speak. For the entrepreneur (and everyone else), true power comes from within. With this being said, let’s dive into the four verbal traits of the powerful entrepreneur:

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Lessons Learned

As promised, I decided to do what would normal terrify me, I took a break. After taking some time off from work, apartment issues, and other New York City stress this is what I have learned:

1) It is important to make time for self-care. Life is tough, and sometimes getting lost in the mess equates to deprivation. We deprive ourselves of fun, luxury and joy. Simple things like getting a haircut adds happiness and pleasure back into our crazy lives.

2) Help others, I now volunteer at a NY GED Center 2 weekends a month, I just return the calls and chat with people about their life and help them deal with their GED practice tests and general preparation for a career change.  I have enormous satisfaction from doing it, and I am convinced it is a powerful way to boost our own happiness and help other in the same time

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How to Create a Lasting Impression

Your appearance and overall presentation is what drives people’s first impression of you. But it’s your performance that creates the lasting impression. This is important because the lasting impression that you leave could be your conduit to new opportunities.

Last Thursday I concluded my service with my biggest client that I’ve been working with for the past two years. This past Monday I started a new assignment with a new client.

Do you know this quote:

“You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.” ~ Zig Ziglar

So, on the day I left my previous job, I received a number of emails from my peers congratulating me for my new opportunity….Most of my peers appreciated my contributions to the team. I’m 99% positive that I will cross paths with many of them in the future by way of opportunity referrals.

I left a lasting impression. And it wasn’t by accident…it was by design.

It’s Really Not that Hard

I learned early that a good portion of people work really hard at figuring out the minimum amount of work that they can do to get by. There’s a high interest in flying under the radar. Some folks are fine with being average and blending within mediocrity. They don’t care about progression…they just want to keep what they have; nothing more, nothing less. And to top it off, negative-talk normally floods the office. Continue reading

So I’ve chosen Feedly as my replacement for Google Reader

In the past year I’ve noticed that the blogs I subscribe to are becoming my new ‘magazine‘. Now, I don’t say that lightly. I have been, in the past, a total magazine junkie. I love the anticipation and performance of sitting down with a lovely glass of wine and of course chocolate (Green and Blacks creamy milk if you must know) and a new shiny, crease free, untouched magazine. But, over the last year, I have to tell y’all, blogs are winning me over. It’s just like having my own personally edited magazine. The blog articles are all chosen by me, written by people I feel I have a connection with and around topics that I am really interested in.

Now, I still have the big glass of wine and chocolate ritual, but I grab my laptop, sit on the sofa and read through the blogs I follow. If I had to go chasing the blogs I read each time I sat down, that would be a major pain. So, I keep track of what blogs I am following by using Feedly, because Google Reader is gone. Which means rather than me going to the blogs, the blogs come to me. Simple. I have a whole pile of different categories – mama bloggers, homeschool (something I am really interested in but have not yet been brave enough to do), pattern and design, food (because I am a big fan), spiritual (because that’s important in my life), friends (because I have some who write great blogs : ) ) and more.

So it’s a treat of an evening, when everyone else is snoring away to nestle down for a good read. With Google Reader gone I chose Feedly, and Feedly I love you! Get it here!

Does anyone else think that their blog reading is taking over from magazines?


Legendary Moleskine notebook review

Moleskine have a respected reputation for their notebooks and it’s this reputation that make them a favourite for travellers wanting to record their thoughts while away. I was lucky enough to be supplied with 3 different types of notebooks from Moleskine to keep a journal of my trip and keep a record of everything such as important numbers, contact info etc. This blog post will look at the notebooks in depth so you can judge for yourself why they have such a good reputation.

As you would expect with a journal you would get the same setup in a lot of them but Moleskine goes that extra step and I’ve found the notebook to be useful in many ways other than recording my thoughts.

The first page is simply incase you lose your notebook. Out of all the things you take travelling with you the notebook will be of no use to anyone who steals it but it will be one of your prized possessions. A nice feature is the reward part giving anyone who finds it more of an incentive to return it to you. Continue reading

Checking account woes

So I have gone through my checkbook register and a printout of my checking account history from April 1 to May 2. Lo and behold, I forgot to fill in a Kroger transaction from the 24th. *gasp* Not an insignificant amount either: $12.03. But. That’s not the best part. So am I balanced now? Nah. Nope. I’M STILL OFF BY EIGHT CENTS! How does that even compute? I swear, I had the stupid thing balanced! Now I’m eight cents off! And, specifically, I think Kemba’s system believes I have eight more cents than I actually do! And I have no idea why! I’ve got half a mind to do an eight-cent adjustment in the register and just cope with it. But if I do that then inevitably somebody or other will notice an error and I’ll overdraft by eight cents.

*headdesk* And yes, I know it’s a stupid idea to spend the account that far down. Yes, I’m aware of that. If you have income such that you have a spare couple hundred to leave in there. May I remind you that I am not one of those people? Yes? Good. Meanwhile, the day before my little girl’s dad got paid I wound up taking most of my savings out of my savings account to feed us all. Why? Well, I had laundry to do and had mentioned it to him and since he was loaning me his car for the afternoon for my daughter’s speech therapy, he suggested I come over to his place afterward and start the laundry early. This was good advice, because far too often I have started laundry too late and kept my daughter up way past her bedtime, much to our collective sorrow.

There were just a few problems:

  1.  He needs to pass the GED otherwise he will loose a job, so now he takes the GED classes in Houston because it’s for free.
  2. His ex-girlfriend, who thinks for some strange reason she’s still his girlfriend even though she dumped him and they never discussed reconciliation, and who sits around on her butt at home because she has fibromyalgia which won’t let her stand to do dishes but will let her walk to get her meds and go to her doctors’ appointments, had not done a decent load of dishes in days.
  3. As a result there was virtually nothing upon or in which to cook, although he had planned to fix dinner for us all.
  4. Their hot water heater is developing a leak.
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Letting go. Messages from the universe

I have a really bad habit of hanging on to things long after I should have let them go. Not by anyone else’s standards, but from my own point of view, since I would know better than anyone else when it is time for me personally to let go of something. Anyway, I did a dumb thing the other night: I went looking somewhere I had not looked in over a year to see if the dust really had settled. I should have stayed away.

On the other hand, I got another pretty clear message from the universe, or God, or who/whatever, that I was right about that person to begin with and that I should probably stop worrying about it and feeling guilty about my part in things. My philosophy is that a lot of so-called sins are easy to fall into through lack of boundary-setting, and so one’s participation in them is sometimes passive. For instance, an opportunity to commit adultery might more or less fall into one’s lap.  But thieving is always an active sin, as in the thief must make an active choice to steal and then seek out the coveted item(s). As such I hold thieving to be a more serious sin than most others a person could commit. (I’m not letting passive sinners off the hook, just paying them a little slack because people don’t always actively seek out wrongdoing, and setting boundaries and defending them is not the easiest thing for some people to do.)

As you might have guessed, I found out that a person with whom I share a long history of drama and heartache is a thief, we met long time ago and we were pretty close.  On top of everything else–by her own admission, and in a tone which said that she didn’t consider stealing from me to be wrong. And I had a lot of doubts about my part in things with her, and I still think I was a jerk and behaved immaturely in some instances. But considering that her household was always a lot messier than mine and I never once got the impulse to steal anything from her, I think it is telling that she bragged about taking something out of my apartment and that she used the fact that my apartment was a mess to excuse her behavior. And it wasn’t something minor, like a bookmark or a nickel. It was an inkjet printer.

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